It’s quite wholesome when you’re both wondering if the other is thinking about you the way you’re thinking about them. Those thoughts eventually disappear when you’re further in the relationship and you communicate your feelings openly. Enjoy those thoughts while they last! So, is he thinking about you or not? Communication is indeed key to understanding what you think about each other. But, you can’t just straight up ask the guy if he’s thinking about you in the early stages of meeting him. And you can’t read his mind either. But you surely can read something else! Here are 14 definite signs he thinks about you a lot:
1. He mentions things from a long time ago
One of the initial yet strong signs that he thinks about you and of you a lot is his mentioning of events and stories with you from a long time ago. For example, you’re having a chat as normal, and he brings up something you did or said a long time ago. If it happens only once, it can be coincidental – something in the moment reminded him of the story. However, if it happens more often than just once in a blue moon, it can be as a result of his mind wandering through memories with you. How else would he remember your blue floral scarf you wore last year if he didn’t think of you?
2. He asks other people about you
When a guy is thinking about you, he will try to get as much information about you as he can and from whoever he can. If you have mutual friends or people who know you, he’ll ask them about you, what you’re up to, or how you’re doing. Don’t be surprised the next time your friends tell you that he asked about you! He’s showing interest in you by doing this and it lets you know that he’s been thinking about you. He might even ask your friends what you think about him or IF you think about him at all. So, if he’s asking around about you, he is thinking and cares about you. You’re in his mind, walking, running, who knows?! He’ll seek peace by asking others about you. He’ll find a way to find comfort.
3. He always tries to get your attention
If the man can’t stop thinking about you, he’ll try to make you notice him as much as he can. He will go out of his way just to get your attention.
He will tease you from time to time;
He will try to be funny around you;
He will initiate conversations.
He’ll do everything for you to find him interesting and to show that he is worthy of your time. He wants your attention because you already have his and he wants you to think of him just as much as he thinks of you! The bottom line is that he just can’t stop thinking about you, and he has to do something about this. So, he wants to make you listen to him and get your attention by doing something he thinks it’s cool. He tries to be cool for you, isn’t that wholesome?!
4. He dreams about you
They say that you dream about what you think on a daily basis. Essentially, it’s your subconscious putting information to your conscious. In a way, dreams reflect what you have done and thought throughout the day. According to Freud’s interpretation of dreams, dreams include inputs from the external world and mental processes while sleeping. So, if he tells you he’s been dreaming about you, that’s another way of telling you he’s been thinking about you. Appearing in someone’s dreams can mean you are an important part of their life and they care about you. Also, if he was not thinking about you or if he was not interested he wouldn’t even tell you that he was dreaming about you. He would keep it to himself, not wanting to start a conversation with you. But, he tells you because it’s an indirect way of telling you he’s thinking about you a lot. Moreover, if he tells you he has been dreaming about you all the time, it could mean that he has strong feelings for you. Maybe he’s just waiting for the right moment to express them, and giving some hints along the way might make this easier for him to express the big news!
5. He stalks your social media
If he’s thinking about you, of course, he will check out your profile on social media. He wants to look at what you have posted and what you’ve been up to. Maybe he doesn’t want you to know that he’s been stalking your profile, so he just stares at your posts without liking or commenting on anything. But, did he ever like a picture of you that you posted three years ago? Yeah…he’s been caught. He didn’t want to do that either and now he feels like a creep looking through your old pictures. You might think he’s a creep too. He’s just a man who can’t stop thinking about you so he’s stalking your social media from A to Z and he slipped and liked a post unintentionally. However, maybe he doesn’t care that he is stalking you and he does it openly by being the first one to like all of your posts. Either way, he wouldn’t be stalking you if he wasn’t thinking about you.
6. He constantly shares memes with you
Sharing memes with someone is becoming a kind of affectionate language between people. Sending someone a meme means that you saw something that reminds you of them. So, if he’s sending you memes, it’s a clear sign that he’s thinking about you. Sending memes can also be a way of flirting. He can send you a meme with something flirty in it, so you can both laugh it off when it’s actually his way of flirting with you. He can be very picky at what memes he sends you.
He is either trying to send you funny ones to make you laugh.
Or he’s trying to send you flirty romantic ones to win your heart or find out if you feel the same way about him.
Both ways, he is thinking about you and he found this way of telling you that he’s thinking about you.
7. He randomly gives you meaningful gifts
Giving someone a meaningful gift shows thoughtfulness and care towards that person. It means that they were thinking about you and the gift reminds them of something that you both shared. Many men show their feelings through gifts. They show things, through gifts, that they can’t express with words. And a meaningful gift tells a lot about what he thinks about you. A meaningful gift can be:
A playlist with all of his favorite songs.
This playlist can be a way for him to relate to the songs that he put in there. It means that he feels the same way as what the lyrics of the songs express. It could also be:
A framed picture of you two, or something else handmade.
It can be a picture that you took when you were having a lot of fun. Or it can be a picture of something that you made memories with and it reminds him of you. Either way, if he gives you gifts that are meaningful for you, he is showing with actions that he’s thinking about you. One does not simply give a gift to someone if they don’t think about them. Love can be easy, but for a lot of us, it is most challenging.Letting go of the fears and insecurities that keeps us tip-toeing around people we fancy is not as easy as it sounds in theory.What if there’s someone trustworthy who can help you with that or any other thing you wish to improve within yourself?If you feel like you’ve got work to do but need a bit of a push to give you the right start, a coach is within your reach!
8. He immediately replies to your text messages
Texting is fun when it’s reciprocated. It’s no fun if one of you texts only one word a day; it’s not even called a conversation. And it’s understandable that people are busy and have work to do. But if despite all that he still texts you back immediately, or always texts you first, he’s thinking about you. He is making time for you in the middle of everything he has to do, and that’s something to be appreciated. Some men don’t ever bother trying to text back with the excuse that they were busy and they will text you at night when they’re alone and have no one to talk to. But the important thing is when he texts you during the day while he’s doing everything and still thinks about you. Fast replies mean that he’s interested and willing to keep the conversation going between you two. It’s crystal clear that he’s thinking about you when he immediately replies to your texts.
9. He remembers your appointments
He’s basically like a diary and remembers everything you tell him. You won’t even have to remember when you’ve set your appointments, you’ll just ask him and he’ll tell you. Wouldn’t recommend that. But, he is thinking about you so much that he even remembers your appointments? It’s hard to remember your own appointments, let alone someone else’s. So he must be very focused on what you tell him because men don’t usually remember those things. However, he’s a lifesaver when you’ve forgotten about your appointment and he reminds you of that. He wouldn’t remind you of your appointment at the dentist if he didn’t care to listen to you. If he listens, he cares. If he cares, thinking about you will be inevitable!
10. He knows what you like and what you don’t like
He likes you, he knows what you like and what you don’t like. To him, you’re a mind invader! Knowing about everyone’s likes and dislikes can be a bit overwhelming for our big brains. This is why we have limited spots for remembering these specific details about people. If you’re one of the people that arouse curiosity and interest within him, then he’ll think of you. When he thinks of you enough to get distracted from work, to forget that he has to get groceries today or not be able to listen to what his friend is telling him, then we’ve got a situation! By the time you two meet up again, he’ll know what you like, what you don’t like, and what you prefer over what. All that thinking will surely serve him something!
11. He texts you very often
He texts you a lot, if not every day, he’ll text you enough to give you the clues. When he thinks of you, he can’t stop himself from doing something about it. It’s pretty much like his attempts to get your attention. If he’s into you, he’ll find a way, or an excuse, to say the least, to text you. Depending on how you respond to his texts, you’ll expect this to happen relatively often. At the end of the day, you invaded his mind. His sense of logic might go a bit unbalanced and make decisions he wouldn’t normally make.
12. He remembers details of your stories
When he thinks about you, be it at appropriate or inappropriate timing, he’ll find the details within the events. Since he’s thinking a lot, he’ll have the time to notice and get details of what you said carved in his mind. This is why he’ll remember exactly what you said to your cousin last year at that dinner party when he embarrassed you in front of the entire family. The bottom line is, that he pays so much attention that not many things escape from his memory. It’s all on repeat when it comes to you! Psst! He’ll also get good at predicting your next move. The thinking part makes him understand your ways of perceiving the world and behaving. Predicting your next move or word might eventually become a piece of cake for him!
13. He tries to be your friend
When a guy is thinking about you a lot and wants something to do with you, he’s more likely to try to be your friend first. By being your friend he will get to know you better. He will learn what you like and what you don’t and will have it easier to turn a friendship into a relationship. That’s because you will trust him more when he’s your friend and you know each other’s personalities. After he becomes your friend and you build that trust, he might tell you he’s been thinking about you and that he likes you more than a friend.
14. He asks about your zodiac sign
If he’s one of those guys that’s into astrology, he will obviously ask you what your zodiac sign is. Apparently, zodiac signs are supposed to tell something about the basics of your personality. He wants to explore your zodiac sign and learn more about you. He also wants to see if your signs are compatible with each other since he might want to be in a relationship with you. If he sees you as a potential partner, he’s thinking about learning everything that he can about you. So, when he asks you about your zodiac sign, know that he’ll spend some time thinking about you and your personality traits.
Honestly, is he thinking about me?
This only matters if you’re thinking about him too. My advice to you is to stop wondering if he’s thinking about you. It’s okay to wonder if he’s thinking about you because you’ll feel good if he is. But, stop wasting your time and exhausting your mind with those thoughts. If he is thinking about you, there are many ways that he could show it, which are presented above. It also depends on what stage your connection is because if it’s the beginning it’s totally okay and he probably is thinking about you. But if you’re far into the relationship with him, you don’t need to be wondering if he is thinking about you. However, if those signs apply to him and his behavior, he’s more than likely thinking about you a lot.
Wrapping up: Why is he thinking about me?
There could be many reasons why he’s thinking about you. Number one – and most obvious – is that he might like you. He might want to have something more than a friendship. Number two, it could be that he wants to be your friend, though it’s not very frequent. Or, number three, he finds you an interesting person that he could learn a lot from. We all know a person who just blows our minds and we think of them quite often. Remember, it doesn’t have to always escape the platonic route for it to be genuine. But the answer you’re looking for is that he has an interest in you. He could be thinking about you because he wants to be more than friends. However, he might be nervous to come clear and say that to you, so he’ll just drop some hints hoping you’ll notice them. Or, he thinks that you’re not that interested in him, and he’ll stay back and watch you before getting the courage to say something. Love, Callisto
