What’s worse is not getting a reply when you stop texting him hoping he’ll notice. You hope he’ll take the courage to show you he cares but it just turns out he doesn’t. This silent rejection can hit our ego hard, perhaps even more than we let on. You stopped texting with the hopes he’d text, but he didn’t seem to care. Why hasn’t he reached back? Here are reasons why you haven’t heard from him when you stopped texting him:
1. He wasn’t that into you in the first place
One of the main reasons why he doesn’t care when you stop texting him is that he didn’t care much in the first place. Just because you stopped texting him, you shouldn’t expect him to magically be interested in you and reach back. Things are much more complex than fussing over a text you haven’t received yet, and you should be spending that time doing something that makes you happy. You should give yourself some room to think about your values and your expectations of him. Perhaps, you weren’t that compatible and you’re trying to hold tight to this relationship with a pinch of wishful thinking.
2. He wants the power back
The power dynamics of your connection changed when you decided to stop texting him, and he doesn’t want to give that up. You haven’t heard from him since you stopped texting him because you’re not abiding by his preferences, and he refuses to give in. This might have given you the chance to see things from another perspective and pinpoint where you stood in your relationship. He could be aware of what you’re trying to prove, but could also be unwilling to do something about it. This makes it a silent play of power between you and him about who has more control over the other within the connection. Making you both find ways to make one another crave the other’s attention.
3. You came off as clingy before stopping to text him
The sudden stop of texting might be giving him peace of mind and a break from you if you’ve been sending him marathon texts. Flooding him with texts is never the best idea because it’s likely that you don’t receive many texts from him either. And now that you stopped texting, he doesn’t care about the intentions behind your silence. Later, if he was interested, you would’ve gotten a text from him asking whether everything is okay.
4. He doesn’t know what to say
Sometimes, it isn’t a matter of not being interested, but it’s rather that he doesn’t know how to start a conversation or what to text you. Thus, if you stopped texting him and haven’t heard anything yet, you should consider his socializing skills as well. He might not be as good at texting as you are. He might just feel awkward and clueless when it comes to it. He could be shy and already contemplating his text to send but overthinking what your reaction will be. Not all guys are confident, some can have low self-esteem. You should consider his personality as the reason why he hasn’t texted back.
5. He’s over the top about himself
He doesn’t care that you stopped texting him because he’s used to women running after him and feeding into his ego. However, if he is self-centered, your sudden disinterest might catch his attention because he isn’t used to women turning their back on him. His narcissistic tendencies might be holding him back because he doesn’t pursue nor chase women, he wants you to chase him. You haven’t heard from him since you stopped texting because he might be indulged in self-importance that he can’t be bothered to text first. He wants it his way, he’s aware that you’re gone, but he won’t take the first step.
6. Texting you was a chore to him: you gave him a way out
When you texted him, you could feel that he was not putting enough effort into the conversation with you. He was giving you dry responses only to avoid being rude. If you overstepped the boundaries of healthy texting that’s why you haven’t heard from him since you stopped texting. He might have seen texting you as more of a chore rather than something he’d love to do. Your sudden lack of texts gives him the perfect opportunity to cut things clean. Also, you might have not been talking frequently with him, thus not being able to create a foundation for a relationship. Hence he doesn’t care that you stopped texting him.
7. You’ve cut his attempts of stringing you along
His intentions might have not been towards building a serious romantic relationship as he led you to believe. Hence, the reason you haven’t heard from him since you decided to stop texting him. Now, he isn’t the one to be investing anything in a relationship that isn’t meaningful to him, further emphasizing why he didn’t care to contact you when you stopped texting him. He’s been stringing you along if,
He was not being responsive to your texts; He was acting as if you aren’t together; His interest peaked only when it came to sex; He got irritated by you;
Your efforts shouldn’t be one-sided and you should be valued as the amazing woman you are. He’s doing you a favor by not texting you.
8. He might be interested in other people
When you stopped texting him and haven’t heard from him, he might have turned to other people he was interested in. That’s because your sudden disconnection from him might have been interpreted as a lack of interest, resulting in him moving on. Also, he might have been talking to other women and found more things in common with them than you, thus not caring if you text him or not.
9. He took you for granted
Because he is so sure that you will get back to him, you will not hear anything from him, because he thinks you are acting out. If this is something you have done before, and couldn’t wait at least a week to see if you will hear from him, he already knows the drill. You stopped texting him and haven’t heard from him because he’s waiting for you to text, like always. However, this time around, if you know that you won’t be able to resist texting, schedule things to do that will make you happy to occupy your time. Although this behavior is not healthy, you should try to think about what works better for you and what motivates you toward self-growth.
10. He feels like he could bother you if he texted
Not texting him for a while can give off a myriad of messages. One of those can be “Don’t bother me, please.” If he’s the type to have his things together, he’s likely to not text you. He could have seen this as a signal of a boundary and so he chose to respect it. This can be especially true if you left him on read on a question he made or if you just left the conversation without a warning. He’s now waiting for you to confirm your interest instead of giving this a shot by texting you.
What exactly happens when you stop texting him?
You have taken a callous decision since you must have liked him, and were invested in the relationship. However, depending on the circumstances, the decision will affect the trajectory of your connection with this guy. If your reasons were specific such as he didn’t seem invested enough or you weren’t feeling valued, then perhaps you’ll get some type of answer. But if you’re doing it without a pure motive and are playing around, perhaps his response might not be as satisfying as you anticipated. When you stop texting him only one of two things can happen: – You manage to get his attention. Since you have been the one to put more effort into the relationship and initiated contact more than eighty percent of the time, the sudden silence might get his attention. When you stop texting him you’re sending the message that you aren’t interested in not being treated right anymore. If he has some level of interest and investment in you, he will notice that something is wrong and confront you about it. – You never hear from him again. He might have not been as interested in you as you presumed, and when you stopped texting you didn’t hear anything from him. Because sometimes you might get caught in projecting your wishes onto others, and quickly, you get faced with the harshness of reality. Unfortunately, he might not care that much and simply not text you once you stop texting him. When you stopped texting to see what happened might have presented him with the perfect opportunity to cut contact. It isn’t easy to move on from someone you have invested in, however, it’s much better to try and accept it and deal with it by adopting healthy habits.
Should I care that I haven’t heard from him since I stopped texting him?
Associating caring with self-worth isn’t the right way to put value in yourself. Just because you care about what someone thinks and they think poorly of you, it doesn’t mean you’re less valuable. It is your actions and what you are that define you. Avoid pressuring him into doing something against his wishes. When in need of advice in such situations you’ve got options and experts to reach out to. It’s important that you make healthy choices and decisions. If he has made you feel less of who you are, then you should know that such a relationship where you feel undervalued and disrespected is toxic. A relationship is mutual and both of you should put in the same investment to make it work. When there is a disproportion of effort and attraction, one will be bound to carry the burden of the relationship. When he doesn’t notice red alarms when you stop texting him, then he hasn’t paid much attention to you from the very beginning. Then you should see it as a red flag and consider the next proper step that you want to make, which will make you feel happy and content with yourself. Take it with a grain of salt and be courageous to make decisions that will be beneficial to your happiness. Love, Callisto
